Pride had a special resonance to me this year – both as a member of the queer community and as a gay therapist.  In my professional role, I’m consistently honored to be a part of the life changing moments in the lives of the queer people. Still, the deeply personal experiences I witnessed as a part of Pride this year, felt notably special.  From seeing a young person come out to their family via FaceTime during the Pride parade, embraced instantly by the love of known friends and the queer community, to receiving a picture from Denver Pride of a man holding a sign that read, “Recovering bigot. I’m sorry. Free hugs” – the potential for change is inspiring and tangible.  As a queer community, we have collectively challenged the status quo, and together, we’ve envisioned alternatives to the heteronormative society surrounding us. 

And still, I am made aware that the beauty and love of Pride is set on the backdrop of a political war on trans people, SCOTUS rulings that attack and limit LGBTQ rights and equal access, and the reality that my bubble doesn’t represent the experience of many – strong reminders that the fight must continue.  

Unique beauty and power of our queer community!

Recently a friend shared that when asked, “Aren’t you glad you’re gay?” Their response is always, “Yes!” They went on to explain, “Being gay has opened up a whole new world to me, helped me understand myself, and made life make sense. The sense of community being a gay offers is unparalleled – queer relationships often display a unique intimacy that provides support and witnesses each other’s lives in a meaningful way.” 

The diverse faces and shared enthusiasm I observed during Pride serve as a reminder of the unique beauty and power of the queer community. I’m privileged to be gay, a member of the queer community, and, in my professional role, witness the courage, freedom, and celebration of authenticity that Pride encapsulates.  Pride carries a weighty and beautiful significance, and I’m hopeful for a future that is more celebratory, open, and caring for all of us.

Pride is a call to action!

I understand that this friend’s experience isn’t universal. As a gay therapist specializing in LGBT mental health, I’m also a witness to the harm that’s been caused to many queer individuals. From the heart-wrenching stories of queer children rejected and disowned by their parents, forced to find “chosen families” elsewhere, to the trauma inflicted by religious institutions and the tumultuous political battles we’ve had to fight, the reality isn’t always as colorful as the rainbows that represent us.  Yet, even in the face of a world that says “don’t say gay,” where drag queens face bans on their art and members of our government attempt to legislate trans people out of reality, we must keep loving and we keep fighting.  Pride reminds us that we aren’t alone in the fight, but the fight continues. 

Personal Stories Matter!

Personal stories and experiences are the lifeblood of Pride. Whether it’s an individual coming to terms with their identity, or a queer therapist working with clients to foster self-love and acceptance, each narrative adds to the richness of the Pride tapestry.

I believe it is crucial to make space for, and listen to, queer voices, especially those often silenced because of the shape of their body, their genital makeup, or their race. As a gay therapist, I feel enormously privileged to offer LGBT affirming and transformative support, to navigate the nuances of identity, gender, and sexual orientation with sensitivity, empathy, and understanding, in stark contrast to the historical experiences of so many. 

Embrace allies!

In the midst of rainstorms and transportation congestion, the Chicago Pride parade draws hundreds of thousands.  Among these onlookers and participants, non-LGBT allies play a crucial role. By listening, learning, advocating for, and standing in solidarity with the LGBT community, allies promote acceptance and inclusivity. I’m moved by the schools, politicians, and religious organizations boldly aligning with the queer community. A more queer world isn’t a world just for queers – it’s an allied world of people being celebrated and supported for who they are. Let’s stick together, both with other LGBT people and our allies.  

Individually and collectively – keep up the fight!

Become the strongest and healthiest versions of yourself. Know that you aren’t alone and keep up the fight. As a gay therapist, and as a member of the queer community, I promise to remain committed to witnessing, supporting, and participating in the continuous unfolding of our collective Pride.

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