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Navigating Monogamy: Challenges and Successes for Gay Men


Monogamy is often portrayed as a straightforward commitment, but for gay men in Chicago, it can involve navigating a unique set of challenges and opportunities. While the gay stereotype emphasizes open relationships or polyamory (and many queer relationships in Chicago are both healthy and non-monogamous), there are many gay couples who find deep satisfaction and…

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Exploring Gay Open Relationships: Pros, Cons, and Considerations


The sexual agreements among many in the queer and LGBT community, particularly among gay men, have evolved significantly over the past few decades. Research since 2010 indicates that open relationships are becoming increasingly common among gay male couples. Studies (Whitton, SW., et al., 2019; Parsons, JT., et al., 2019) have shown that approximately 40-50% of…

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Understanding Gay Shame and Gay Guilt


Shame and guilt are emotions we all experience at some point in our lives, but for many people in the LGBTQ+ community, these emotions can take on a much deeper and more destructive form. “Gay shame” and “gay guilt” refer to the emotional burdens many gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender individuals carry as a result…

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Family Dynamics in Lesbian Communities: Therapy Approaches


Navigating family dynamics can be tough for all families, but when it comes to the unique challenges faced by lesbian people and their families, it can feel even more overwhelming. Queer families in Chicago may struggle with acceptance, there can be tension around coming out, and external societal pressures often add additional stress. Fortunately, lesbian…

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Addressing Feelings of Inferiority in the LGBTQ+ Community


Folx, let’s talk about a group of people who’ve mastered the fine art of surviving, thriving, and accessorizing—the Queer and LGBTQ+ community. Yes, in a world where love is love (and rainbow flags make excellent capes), there’s still one sneaky villain that refuses to get with the program: feelings of inferiority. Now, you might think,…

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