Recognizing, Treating, and Preventing Burnout
When Rob, a Chicago therapist, first met “Luis,” he didn’t say, “I have burnout.” He said, “I’m tired of trying.” He was sleeping, but not resting. He cared about his work, but felt nothing when he did it. He was snapping at his partner over dishes while answering Slack messages at 10:30 p.m. That mix…
How Do I Cope After a Breakup? A Compassionate Guide to Healing and Growth
If your heart feels heavy and your brain won’t stop replaying the last conversation, you’re not alone. Breakups are a form of loss, of a person, a routine, a hoped-for future, and your mind and body are built to respond. Nothing about your reaction is “too much” or “not enough.” This is grief, this is…
What Kind of Therapy Helps Most with Anxiety and Depression in Chicago?
If you’re hoping for a single, definitive winner, here’s the honest answer: there isn’t one. Individual therapy works best when it’s evidence-based and tailored to you—your symptoms, your history, your values, and your capacity for Introspection and skill practice. In the same way, neighborhoods across the city have different vibes—Lincoln Park isn’t Lakeview—the right fit…
Why Gay Men Love Heated Rivalry—and Why It’s a Risky Blueprint for Real Relationships
Some stories don’t just entertain; they organize a feeling. Heated Rivalry does that thing a certain kind of romance does exceptionally well: it takes desire, presses it into a high-stakes environment, and turns every glance into a referendum. Competition, secrecy, masculinity, proximity, restraint—each ingredient is a voltage amplifier. The result is not merely “hot.” It’s…
Why You Should Stop Searching for a Partner to Make You Happy
Let’s just get this out of the way: if your idea of a perfect relationship is someone swooping in to complete you like the final piece in a jigsaw puzzle, I have good news and bad news. The good news? You’re not alone. The bad news? You’re also wrong. As an individual therapist and relationship…